A Difficult Week

Let me preface this post by saying I’m on some new medications that have me in space cadet mode, but I will try and be as coherent as possible.

On Monday afternoon I heard from my stepsister Debbie that my Dad had passed away in his sleep. He had atrial fibrillation, and his heart stopped in the middle of the night. It was a shock to us all, as it seemed his doctors had recently gotten the problem under control.

Within an hour or two after getting the news, I started to feel dizzy and get zig-zag spots in front of my eyes. The spots have historically been typical of a migraine aura for me, so I assumed that the stress of the situation had triggered one. Then things devolved – I started to get confused and not remember or recognize things – so Tim put me in the car and headed to the emergency room (fortunately he had come home from work when I called him with the news about Dad). On the way there, I had a seizure. Tim pulled over and called 9-1-1 and an ambulance came and transported me to the local Shoreline hospital (Middlesex), where I had a second seizure.

Because of the neurological nature of the problem, after some tests and scans, Middlesex had me transported to Yale for admission (where my neurosurgeon and radiation oncologist are based). I spent a couple of days there and was released on Wednesday evening. They found that one of my brain metastases had grown from 6 to 8 mm since my previous MRI on January 13th, and had some swelling and bleeding around it. I am now on steroids and antiseizure medications to help control it.

I have a follow up consult with the neurosurgeon on February 27th, and we’ll see where we go from there. In the meantime, I’m waiting to hear from my neurosurgeon as to whether or not air travel is safe so I can try and make it to Seattle for the Open House they are having to celebrate my dad’s life.

I don’t remember much from the past few days, but the outpouring of support from friends and family has been tremendous and greatly appreciated. My dad was a gentle, kind, and loving man who will be missed greatly. For those of you that knew him and would like to pay tribute, my stepmom, Nora, has asked that in lieu of flowers and in accordance with dad’s wishes, donations be made to either the breast cancer charity Metavivor.org or to my bucket list fund. We’ve set up an account at YouCaring to make donations easier if you choose the latter.

Please keep our family in your prayers as we deal with the loss of this great man.


8 thoughts on “A Difficult Week

  1. Paula, I’ve been thinking of, and praying for, you all week. I can’t imagine how difficult a time you’ve all been having. I’m so glad you’re back home and I hope the new medicine helps, and soon. I love the picture of you with your Dad and Sunny and hope that the happy memories get you through this tough time. Love and miss you tons!

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  2. Paula –
    I’m sorry to hear about your father’s passing and everything that you’ve dealt with since you heard the news. I echo like Karen sentiments, I hope the new meds help.
    You’ve been on my mind all week and I’m sending boatloads of love, strength, and prayers your way.

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  3. Paula,
    You have been on my mind heavy on my heart and I pray for you and your family. Im sorry for the loss of your dad. I pray for love ,support, strength ,and healing. Social media is crappy alot of the time but it has helped to reconnect with either by words or spirit . I am still thankful that Sandy Ford told me about where you were these days. The world is small and blessings can be great. Best of everything all the moments as You & Phyllis were one of my earliest childhood friends. Best to you & your family ❤

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  4. Paula, you have been strong on my mind. Now I know why. You wrote of your father as being a kind, loving, gentle man. He taught you well. You are and will continue to be in my prayers. You are loved and respected by me and so many.

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