I received an email from a teenager last week. She was looking for guidance on how to deal with the loss of her mom this past summer. Like my youngest son, she is in her senior year of high school.

A good therapist, counselor, and/or support group is always my first recommendation when we are talking about coping with the aftermath of a loss of a family member and the grief that accompanies it. Of course, therapy is also best started before that family member passes, but life moves fast and that can’t always happen.

Help me help this gal. I encourage folks to comment below with any advice they might have. I’m also sharing these resources that offer important tips for this age group:

Also, a very brief update on my health. I haven’t gotten the final radiology report yet, but overall my recent brain MRI looks good and I don’t need another brain scan for 12 weeks. I have “regular treatment” (what I call anything impacting below my neck) on Monday and will post any updates. Right now, the ship looks stable – patches and all.

3 thoughts on “Grieving

  1. I have no words of wisdom, unfortunately. I have found myself worrying that if something happened to me my teenager would feel so guilty for giving me so much grief. It reminds me to frequently tell him that I know how much he loves me, even when all evidence is to the contrary. On the other topic, so happy and grateful to hear that the ship is stable. ❤

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  2. I have experience with grief.
    The early death of my mother, one of my best friends.
    And more recently, my brother, another one of my best friends.
    My advice?
    There is no time table for grief.
    Lose all expectations of when you think you’re going to feel better … there is no set time.
    With the right tools – professional help, emotional support, and all of the tangible things that soothe you (mine include nature, prayer, and music) there will eventually come a time when the pain is not constant. It will feel more like waves that come and go, sometimes pounding, but then flowing away.
    Make no demands on yourself.
    Surround yourself with people who love you and weed out the ones who hurt you.
    Tap into your spiritual connection … if it is only vague, now might be the time to further explore it.
    I wish peace to all who grieve.
    I want to hug all who grieve.
    Life is both so beautiful, and so brutal.
    Look for the beauty.

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  3. Paula,
    That young person has found such a gift in you and your writings. Using your skills to bring understanding to your life experiences takes courage and strength and I stand in awe.
    You may want to let her know about The Cove, which is a center for children and teens experiencing loss.
    Their website is:
    Hope this helps.
    Peace to you and yours,

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